Showing posts with label homeschooling. Show all posts
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Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Our Easter Pictorial

Our Easter Devotional:  Each egg contains an icon from the Easter story.  We hung a new one each day as we read the Scriptures.







A sweet gift from a friend to remember Bullseye

Kool-Aid worked great this year.  For eggs and hair!



We made this Easter centerpiece for our lovely neighbor, Leanne.  We found the idea on Pinterest.





Homemade friend gifts.

Eye candy.  A live purple orchid.




Tuesday, April 2, 2013

On Teaching Children to Be Magnanimous

In our homeschool, we have spent much time discussing new words we encounter in books, reviewing science terms, and using vocabulary cartoons.  I encourage my kids to come up with better words than "that thing-y over there" and to name the emotions that they're feeling during some weeping and gnashing of teeth session.  In writing, we grab thesauruses.  In reading, we pull up online dictionaries.  

Every now and then I come upon a word that is so loaded with meaning and import that it becomes a devotional for the day.  Today the word is magnanimous.  We came across it as I read during lunch yesterday from Mark Twain's A Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur's Court and I kind of stumbled over the pronunciation and skipped the discussion.  Today I plan to readdress it.  



A magnanimous person is high-minded and big-hearted.  He is chivalrous and generous of spirit.  She has a high moral code and is not easily offended.  Forgiveness comes quickly.  The word encompasses a sense of dignity, a delight in benevolence, a humility in victory, and a refusal to be petty. As I address character flaws in myself and my children, I think the quality of magnanimity is worthy of aspiration.  

And, of course, it is an excellent description of Christ.  

CS Lewis says the chest of a man is the seat of magnanimity.  

Now that just makes me breathe a little deeper and stand a little taller.

Monday, February 25, 2013

Teenagers, Books, and Devil's Food

In a few hours, a group of high schoolers will gather in my living room to discuss our latest literature selection, Lord Foulgrin's Letters by Randy Alcorn.  It's a haunting, convicting story of a senior demon writing letters to a junior demon instructing him in the ways of demons, as the story of Jordan Fletcher, a modern husband and father, unfolds.  It is an updated version of C.S. Lewis's famous Screwtape Letters.  This book has given me much needed insight into the spiritual realm and its implications on my world.  




What is even more fascinating is Randy Alcorn's story.  As a pastor in Oregon, he became involved in pro-life protests, got arrested, got sued, and lost.  The judgement was a lifetime of garnished wages, which would go directly to the abortion clinic.  If he ever made more than minimum wage, funds would be garnished.

What a test!  After much wrestling and prayer for wisdom, he resigned from his church and started a non-profit called Eternal Perspectives Ministries.  He began to write and now has over 40 fiction and non-fiction published books.  He is paid minimum wage and his wife is paid a secretary's salary.  They live a very frugal, generous life, but would say emphatically that what they have lost in worldly material, they have gained in spiritual fruit.

Why did I choose this book?  First, when biblical truths are written in the form of a fictional story, the heart and imagination can be deeply stirred.  I remember the first time I read the book, I realized I had not understood or legitimized an important aspect of my Christian faith:  the co-existing spiritual world of angels and demons, referenced over 130 times in the Bible.  As Alcorn puts it:  know God, know yourself, know your enemy.  

Secondly, I like when the author has his own interesting story.  If Alcorn had not encountered the crucible of his faith, he would not have become a prolific writer.  He might have been a great pastor to his tribe in Oregon, but he would not have had the time to write 40 books.  God does not always give us the easy route to our calling.

I look forward to hearing what the kids think about this story and the author's background.  How many of them will live out their lives with Alcorn's sacrifice and zeal?  How will their faith be informed by the protagonist and antagonist of the book?  How will I move into the future with the wisdom I have gleaned from this man and his story?  

Oh, and afterwards, we're making pizza, and one of the girls is bringing devil's food cake for dessert.  Or is it angel food cake?

I LOVE BOOKS!  AND TEENAGERS!


  

Thursday, August 23, 2012

H.A.B.I.T.S. for the New School Year

I was out wogging this beautiful morning.  I used to be a runner.  Four miles a day.  That was the month before my 20th class reunion.  I've taken extended, intermittent breaks from the concrete and treadmill.  I'm trying to get back into the routine.  When I'm outdoors, I'm a wogger.  Walk the hills, jog the rest.  Oh, somewhere in there I gained back the 15 pounds I had dropped when I was a runner.  Funny how that works.  I need another reunion on the horizon!

Wogging outdoors can be a highly creative time for me.  I've composed songs and come up with all kinds of homeschooling ideas while burning calories.  Today, I was talking to God about the upcoming school year, which begins on Monday at Riverwood Academy, when I looked at a neighbor's mailbox and saw the number 1111.  I hadn't noticed it before.  I love that number.  I don't know why, but I often see it on clocks or on the treadmill and it makes me smile and think of God.  Like He's winking at me. 

My idea came just after 1111.  I was thinking about some of the unproductive habits we've formed in the lazier hours of the summer and how we need to focus on developing or rediscovering good habits.  So here's my idea:

  • During our family meeting on Sunday, we'll brainstorm words that begin with the letters in HABITS.  Health, Attitude, Benevolence, Inspiration, Training, Service, perhaps.  I want the whole family to pitch out ideas. 
  • Once we settle on a word to represent each letter, we will take some time the next week to find Bible verses that correspond, and they will become our memory verses for the first part of the school year.  I am planning to use this wonderful notecard review system this year. 
  • We'll talk about how to apply each concept as issues arise. 

  • I will buy big wooden or cardboard letters spelling "Habits" at Hobby Lobby and spray paint them silver.  We'll write the chosen word on each letter along with the verse reference.  Then I will hang them in our living room.  Giant letters are so trendy right now, anyway.  This will serve as a daily reminder of what we are striving for.  When we stop noticing them, I'll spray paint them blaze orange.  Ha!  I found this example on Pinterest:


I'll post the final project when we're done.  In the meantime, I'm going to enjoy the last 4 days of my loosy-goosy, messy, lazy, sugary summer. 

Godspeed to my fellow homeschoolers.




Tuesday, February 28, 2012

I Will Try Harder

My son is reading a heady book as part of his Starting Points Biblical Worldview curriculum: C.S. Lewis' Mere Christianty.  He's a little behind in his reading (and frustrated enough to snap a pencil in half!), so I offered to read a couple of chapters to him yesterday and help him complete his questions. 


What I didn't expect was to nearly cry in relief at the sage words of this great atheist turned-Christian philosopher.  Noah looked at me strangely as I read the words, then hugged the book to my heart and said, "Thank you, Lord."  I don't think it was an accident that it was Book III, Chapter 11, p. 109  that I read to my boy yesterday.  I believe it was God's provision for me, a tired, striving mother. 


You see, I have set loftly spiritual goals lately, and the more I grasp for them, the more they elude me. 




In December, I chose my three words for the 2012:  thrift, nurture, decrease (fasting.)  After two months, I'm painfully aware of how unthrifty I am, how many opportunities I neglect to nurture people in my life, and how quickly I can talk myself out of a fast.  I recall with a wince how enthusiastically I shared my three words and associated goals with a group of women in January.  I was inspired and trying to be inspiring.  Now it's halfway through February, and I am instead clinging to these words Lewis wrote many years ago....

"(We must) make some serious attempt to practice the spiritual virtues.  A week is not enough.  Things often go swimmingly for the first week.  Try six weeks.  By that time, having, as far as one can see, fallen back completely or even fallen lower than the point one began from, one will have discovered some truths about oneself.  No man knows how bad he is till he has tried very hard to be good." (p. 109)

"All this trying leads up to the vital moment when you turn to God and say, 'You must do this.  I can't.'" (p. 113)
-C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

So I will not stop trying to be good.  I will pour myself out trying to be good...and this will lead to the truth, that I am a weakling who is personally bankrupt.  And then I will know that I know that I know why Jesus had to pay.

Friday, February 3, 2012

Busyness Redefined

I regularly ask myself, "Am I too busy?"  Like most people, my schedule is full and I have to be pretty creative to get everyone where they need to be.  The interior of the car serves as dining room, prayer room, library, movie theater, coffee shop...you get the picture.  Some people are surprised to hear how much homeschoolers are not at home!  Think about it:  everything but actual bookwork is in other buildings (in another town!)...choir, gym, play practice, out-of-town games.  And I am THE BUS DRIVER! 

So back to my original question:  Am I too busy?  Are we over- committed?

No.  And here is why:  like Jesus, I do ministry "as I go."  If you read through the gospels, you note the oft-repeated phrase,"As Jesus was on his way..."  Did he even have a home?  He always had a destination, but he constantly stopped to minister, heal, pray, teach, love, and serve along the way.  He knew his purpose, and it wasn't just to arrive at the next thing on time.  It was to do his Father's work. 

I wake early each morning to meet with God and ask Him to direct my day.  I fill out my daily schedule and then acknowledge that the day is in His hands.  At the end of the day, I reflect a bit.  It's encouraging to realize that on most days, I am able to keep to the schedule, AND minister along the way, engage with people, notice little things to be thankful for, connect with my kids, serve a nice dinner.  It's about paying attention and inclining my ear toward God.  It's about having a swirling spiritual awareness on one level, while I move and breath in the temporal world. 

Yesterday, I received an e-mailed prayer request to my women's Bible study group.  A woman asked for prayers as her husband prepared to leave for a business trip to China.  Simple enough, but God gave me the insight to read between the lines.  He reminded me how it felt to send my husband into the exotic, temptation-filled world of Asia.  I stopped immediately to e-mail her.  The floodgates opened.  There was much to minister to between the lines. 

I was tired after a long day yesterday, and happy that I would have the evening home.  Then my daughter got sick and couldn't babysit for my friend's "small group" gathering...17 kids!  So I went in her place.  I got to read to a sweet toddler, hold a 5-day old baby, and have lovely conversations with some beautiful friends at the end of the night. 

When the kids were little, I wanted to be out more.  Now I want to be home more.  But my purpose does not change based on my stage of life.  I can glorify and serve God in all things...changing diapers, scrubbing dishes, spearheading fundraisers, performing concerts, emailing, blogging, babysitting, cleaning cat puke, driving the bus.  My home is a haven; my family is a gift and a mission; but there is much good to be done "on the way." 

Monday, January 30, 2012

Crossfire on the Homefront

One child:  peace.  Two children:  squabble.  Three children: warfare.  In our home lately, I have had to dodge the crossfire of words, angry looks, jabs and pokes.  I never know if it's going to turn into grumbles, tears, whines, or blows (no blows yet!), or how much to intervene.  Dr. Lehman suggests putting them together in a confined space until they work it out.  I might try that.  Is the coat closet too tight?  Another parenting expert said, "If you just spend 30 minutes a day with each of them doing what they want to do, they will not misbehave."  I wish I had an hour and a half every day to leisurely play.  Not on Planet Pearson!

Nurture.  One of my three words for 2012.  How can I nurture them through this?


The best I could come up with this morning was to revisit Galatians 5:22-23.  We gathered in the living room, opened our Bibles, and read together,  "And the fruit of the Spirit is:  love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control." 




The kids copied down the verse and then made a column of "opposites."  Hate, sadness, turmoil, worry, impatience, cruelty, evil, betrayal, harshness, impulsiveness.  I wish I could say they all put on their haloes and started sprouting fruit, but in the very midst of the devotional, they engaged in sharp responses and finger-pointing. 


I lit a candle and reminded them we have the Holy Spirit in us like a fire.  It can shed light on all this beautiful fruit in us. Then I blew out the candle and told them that our attitudes can snuff out the flame.  We become dark.  We leave behind the stench of smoke. 




We each chose a quality to work on for the day and prayed about it.  One chose kindness.  The second chose peace.  The third chose self-control.  I chose gentleness.  Our prayers were sincere.


By snack time, they were already quarreling, insisting they were innocent and another was causing the trouble. 


"She's whistling again." 
"He's being mean."
"She's asking dumb questions." 
"Moooooooom!"


I quickly felt my own flame sputtering.  I could smell the tendrils of smoke.  My eyes darkened with all that is opposite of Spirit fruit.  I turned my back to them, placed my palms on the cool counter, bridled my tongue, breathed deeply, and prayed the kids would hear themselves.  See the sin.  See the need for more of God. 


And then, suddenly, they were laughing big, hearty laughs.  Is that a flicker of a flame I see?  Is that a drip of sweet nectar I taste?  I joined the laughter as I swept off crumbs from the counter and told them, "This is Joy, kids, this is Joy.  Let's live here for awhile."  And we did.  For awhile.

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Too Many Cooks in the Kitchen

Riddle:  what singular thing can bring us great benefit and massive discouragement?  Well, it's all in the semantics.  Great benefit:  emulating a person and family you admire, otherwise known as role modeling.  Massive discouragement:  comparing yourself to a person or family you envy, otherwise known as idol worshipping.

My husband and I had a discussion about this last night over burgers and fries at Newts.  I wanted to pick his brain on which men in his life he admires and seeks to emulate.  He wanted to eat his burger and keep abreast of the 49ers/Patriots score.  But he humored me and mentioned a couple of names, pointed to some parenting classes we've taken, and praised the fact that we are a tight team when it comes to guiding our family. 

"Do you ever get down on yourself because you're not more like so-and-so?" I probed. 

"Nope."

"Oh." 

Maybe it's a female thing.  Maybe we more easily turn role models into idols.  All I know is that I have to be extremely careful in this area.  In the Bible, which is my instruction manual, there is no step-by-step recipe on how to do life and raise a family.  God has provided the ingredients of my family in one big, handsome face, one quickly-wrinkling, almost 40-year-old mug,  and 3 sweet, ever-morphing faces.  He says, "Child, this is My provision for you.  There are a million fine ways cook.  Just trust Me, and I will be your guide and soothe your worries." 

What happens when there are too many cooks in my mental kitchen?  



It leads me to think things like: why don't  I have her ingredients?  How come I can't have a kitchen like theirs?  How do they cook with a well-developed recipe, while I just cook with a pinch of this and a palm of that?  How did they get nice, brown bread while mine is burned on the bottom? 

Suddenly, my mind hits fast-forward through the Food Network.  Do it like this!  Do it like that!  Stir the pan!  Put on the lid!  Take off the lid!  Turn up the heat!  No, turn it down!  Follow the recipe!  Throw out the recipe!  Oh, look at his perfect turkey.  Oh, look at her beautiful cake.



Stop.  STOP!  Turn it off.  We are the Pearsons.  God loves even the worst things about us, because they keep us humble and seeking Him.  God loves the best things about us because they make Him look good. 

Now, I think I'll go join my family for our own little breakfast in our own little kitchen, even if someone burns the toast.

Friday, January 6, 2012

Celebrating Ephiphay with the Kids

Today is the "twelfth day of Christmas."  When you sing the painfully long Christmas carol, or sit patiently as your young piano students plunk it out at lessons, you might be interested to know that those days FOLLOW Christmas Day and end on Jan. 6, called Epiphany by the early church.  Epiphany means "manifestation."  We generally recognize it as the day when the Magi beheld the Christ child with their gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh.  A day when Jesus was revealed not just to the Jews, but to the Gentiles.   Today!






I would like to discuss this event with my kids during devotions this morning, so I did a little research.  We will begin by reading Matthew 2:1-12 and learning the significance of each gift of the Magi.


Then I found this compelling tradition of the Western Church.  They write in chalk the three initials of the Magi, C, M, and B (Caspar, Melchior, and Balthasar) which also stands for Christus mansionem benedicat, translated "May Christ Bless This House."  I LOVE this idea!  I'm not sure why there is a 'K' on this door, but this picture is an example of the initials chalked onto a door of a rectory in the Czech Republic.  Today it will be our door.  I'll post a picture tomorrow. 




Ephiphany is a lovely word.  It has all this spiritual history, but it also is the word for "a sudden, intuitive perception of reality."  I love those kind of inspired moments and hope to have many in 2012.  




Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Fear of Average

My great joys growing up were always the "slam dunks:"  successes rewarded with the point or the A or the solo or the lead role or the accolade.  If I was in an activity in which I couldn't bubble up to the top, I would quit and look for an opportunity to rise in something else. 



My son is on a basketball team that emphasizes defense.  Maybe this is common among coaches, but it seemed a little foreign to me.  When I played three years of basketball in middle school, I recall that it was all about the points.  Getting the ball and driving to the basket.  The first email from the coach of the Homeschool Defenders team was about the priority of defense. 

This got me thinking that deep inside, I've always feared being average, being one of the under-appreciated defense.  One thing that homeschooling and staying home to raise my kids has stripped me of, though, is my penchant for slam-dunks.  If there is a continuum of homeschooling aptitude, I am right in the middle.  My children are average performers.  No spelling bee champs or violin virtuosos.  I don't see full-ride scholarships in the future.  They aren't perfectly mannered or running a hobby farm.  At the end of a day of homeschooling, I rarely feel we have accomplished much.  A messy house.  Some refereeing between siblings.  A great deal undone. 

But there is something different lifting to the top now.  A fresh humility that cracks the egg of ego and spills out compassion and prayers.  Like Jacob, I wrestle with God often and come in last always.  But the last shall be made first in God's kingdom order, so can I really lose? 

I can put my arm around a friend now and say, "I know, it's hard.  There's no formula for perfection.  There is no basket for slam-dunks."  

And that, I think, is what God loves to see rise within us, like a great flock of birds bursting into sky. 

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Brave

You set out to do the extraordinary,
you brave, homeschooling mother

Armed with the consummate classics:
Tom Sawyer, Little Britches, A Wrinkle in Time
and piles of God's Heroes:
Amy Carmichael, Nate Saint,
and some days you think you'd rather be
on the Amazon with the natives

than in the living room with
your own flesh and blood,
who've got you at the end of your rope,
or is the end of the spear?

The oldest fusses over analyzing sentences
while secretly peeking at football plays
Another disappears from her math lesson
and magically reappears out the window,
a pendulum on the rope swing
And why is the youngest in tears over
their, there, and they're?

All day long you point
to the piano the dishwasher the next problem
the key word the vowel team the pile of towels
the board game spread across the couch
the half done science experiment on the counter
the dog
begging for dinner

You wish you could control their eyes
while your own wander to the
hummingbird at the feeder
and you privately long for wings

The words nag:
Am I enough?

And then you remember...
the first school was in a garden

So you say to the children,
let's go pick the rest of the vegetables
There is going to be a hard freeze tonight

And, blessed, you call it a lesson in
biology, meteorology, home ec, and religion

Suddenly you notice
their roots have eased down a little deeper
and you feel just a little braver
today




Wednesday, August 31, 2011

What Kind of Person Homeschools?

There were twenty of us circled in my living room last night.  Nobody knew everybody.  Everybody knew somebody.  We all had two things in common...we were preparing to embark on a new year of homeschooling and we all attend the same church. 

We slowly worked our way around the circle, trying to figure each other out.  We were like planets on different orbital paths, but with the same center, the Bright and Morning Star. 



"Young planets," just getting started, shared their fears and anticipation as they cradled the newest born of their growing families.  "Veteran planets" gave us wise counsel, like meteors aimed straight at our hearts, discussing everything from high school transcripts to leaving a legacy of learning. 

We shared laughs over our children's antics, winced at the hard things we face, cried with one mother's painful discovery.  Like the gravitational pull that holds the physical world together, and the wisdom of God that holds all things together, we were attracted to each other's stories and hearts.  A little universe of twinkling stars and tilting planets.

We each shared three words that describe us.  So what kind of person homeschools?  Uptight, relaxed, talkative, quiet, outgoing, shy, firstborn, youngest, soft, firm, organized, scattered.  I was blessed and impressed by the diversity of personalities and yet the unity of heart and mind in this grand, galactic adventure. 

Thursday, July 21, 2011

Something News

Somehow this crafty, musical, not-so-interested in politics momma agreed to teach Civics to middle-schoolers this fall at our homeschool co-op. 



If you're unsure what Civics is, it's the study of government with an emphasis on personal rights and responsibilities.  If you're unsure what a co-op is, it's a bunch of homeschooling families coming together to offer their kids special group classes, taught by hired (albeit not expert) instructors.  This year's classes for my kids include art, speech, gym, science fair project, and health, in addition to Civics.  www.cchomeschoolers.org

Suddenly I'm reading every political current event article, writing my legislators thank you notes, surfing the web for lesson plans, and relearning the difference between a democracy and a republic...oh, and LOVING it!  Here is the question I will present on the first day of class as we explore rights vs. resposibilities.  It was inspired by a recent Rochester Post-Bulletin article:  should a person be allowed to use a toilet as an outdoor planter? 

Something new.  There is so much joy in it.  It's what I try to teach my children:  don't ever stop learning something new.

I observe the current something news of my little family, as they spend their loosely structured summer hours.  For Noah at age 13, it's delving into sports statistics, navigating the new world of Facebook, developing his acting and singing skills, and pushing through a challenging piano piece. 

At almost 11, Megan has to have her hands busy creating something new if her nose isn't in a book.  And 8-yr-old Grace wants to learn and master games, perfect her musical theater jazz hands, and see how many ways she can write her name in bubble letters.  Dave is learning how to play his new homemade Irish whistles and figuring out our complicated new recording equipment so he can teach me in Kindergarten language. 

OK, so there's plenty of Netflix streaming and Wii playing, too.  The kids have made it through multiple seasons of The Brady Bunch and advanced many game levels.  I have wasted too much time blindly scanning Facebook when I should be cleaning.  I have chosen to eat more ice cream and run less miles.  Nothing new there.  (weak sigh)

Pastor Tim reminded me of one of my favorite verses in Psalm 16 last Sunday. 

You have drawn boundary lines in pleasant places. 



With each something new, the boundary lines expand, wisdom deepens through joys and hardships, and a mind set on gratitude and faith calls it all a pleasant place. 

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

The Beauty of Immersion

You might not notice him walking down the street.  Average height and build.  Jeans with a T-shirt tucked in.  Curly hair and graying whiskers.  Maybe a college professor if he was wearing a blazer.  Maybe a sports fan if he was wearing a Twins hat.  Perhaps a Mayo doctor if he had a stethoscope around his neck.

But put him on a stage surrounded by 80 kids listening with rapt attention, and you'd know he was doing what he was created to do.  Not just directing theater productions, but capturing minds and hearts.  Mr. Driscoll is my kids' beloved community theater director.  As I stand off stage, busily upholstering set pieces or painting storefronts as we prepare for opening night of Music Man, I listen to him.  He's a father of 7 (I think) and a homeschooling dad and literature teacher.  He directs many shows each year and dreams up incredible sets and costumes and casts vision for hoards of volunteers. 



At the end of each rehearsal, after running through his list of corrections and notes, he sets to the task of inspiring.  "Why are we doing this, kids?  Because it is IMPORTANT!" he booms.  "This story needs to be told, and you have been chosen to tell it!"  My heart leaps for my children, who get to do something as important as tell a 1912 salesman story to their community, bringing joy and delight to the masses. 

Mr. Driscoll (say it aloud...his name even sounds like a character) talked yesterday about the beauty of immersion.  He said he has taught the same set of 8 sonnets for 25 years and they have become like old friends.  He told the kids to live and breathe Music Man for the next 2 weeks; to help with set and costumes, to study librettos, to become the character, and with every knee-high march in 76 Trombones, to look like you are having the most fun ever! 

I think about the things in my life I have poured myself into, sacrificed for, saturated my mind with, sold my soul to.  They are most dear and known.  They are mine and all mine.  In this world of a million pleasures and ample distractions and ADD, may I pursue the art of single-mindedness.  May I teach my children the beauty of knowing something deep and wide...a verse of Scripture, a poem, a piece of art, a selection of Beethoven. 

I am guilty as any of leaving a thousand things unfinished, like books, half-written songs, partially knitted scarves.   Because I worry my kids aren't getting enough exposure, I overteach subjects and underteach depth and they never fall in love with anything. 

I'm challenging myself this school year to slow down.  To give my kids space to fall in love.  Over and over and over.  Perhaps we'll start with a sonnet.  A question for you, reader...what do you know deeply and love forever?

Thursday, July 14, 2011

Everybody Homeschools

I am not a person who thinks everyone should "officially" homeschool their kids.  That would be an arrogant and divisive position to take, and frankly, I had a great public school experience and I know many kids do.  The beauty is that we still have rights as parents to make decisions about our children.  Besides, my favorite quote from the sage grandfather of my friend, who sat at the head of the dinner table one night listening to his adult grandchildren debate homeschool v. public school v. Christian school said, "I have one thing to say on the subject.  You ALL homeschool no matter where your kids spend their days.  Do it well."


As I enter my 9th year of the beloved responsibility of teaching my kids at home, I admittedly am encouraged by the substantial list of successful people who were homeschooled. http://www.homeschoolacademy.com/famoushomeschoolers.htm  Not because I think my kids need to be famous someday, for I do not equate success with fame.  Many of the people listed were taught at home by highly qualified tutors, not by moms and dads who entered into the endeavor with fear and trembling, feeling unqualified and nagged with doubts.


I would not do this if I did not feel called by God.  If I could look you in the eye and say, "I'm not created and called to do this," then I wouldn't.  But I've been given everything I need, day by day like portioned manna, to accomplish this task.  I battle inner demons on a regular basis...pride, envy, comparisons, and the list goes on.  I pour countless hours and tremendous dollars analyzing and purchasing curriculum, creating spaces and schedules, estimating strengths and weaknesses of myself and each child, and praying for favor and balance.  And in the end, my kids are just kids, I am just a mom, Dave is just a dad, and God is still God, putting it all in eternal perspective:  this world is not our home, this body is just a tent, and everything will turn to dust.  (Can you tell I've been reading Ecclesiastes?!)


And so, quite simply, I wake up each day and hug my kids and kiss my husband and love my Lord and make music and read wonderful stories and grow things and be grateful and laugh and run and occasionally trip and fall and get back up. 


Artistic post-script...


I recently discovered that two of my favorite contemporary artists/entertainers were homeschooled.  Tim Hawkins is a brilliant comedian, with the facial elasticity of Jim Carrey, the parody-writing talent of Weird Al, and the wholesome wit of Bill Cosby.  Just type Tim Hawkins in a YouTube search and get ready to belly laugh.  Every now and then, he will poke fun at his homeschool experience.  Here are a couple of links:


Adam's Family parody called "The Homeschool Family" by Tim Hawkins
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VM6uqj0_jQc

Comedy routine called "Restaurants"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z427iKrXPvE


My new favorite singer/songwriter is Audrey Assad, and I just found out this morning that she was homeschooled.  The girl knows how to use poetic language and unique melody to create an enduring moment, and her voice is a cross between Karen Carpenter and Sarah McLaughlin, with brilliant power in her upper range.  I am unashamedly jealous of her pipes.  Here is one of her best songs:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3moGYtZxDwA&feature=fvsr

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Setting Your Husband Up to Fail

As he innocently pours milk on his cereal and anticipates a nice breakfast with his wife on the screened porch this beautiful morning, I'm sure he doesn't suspect the trap.  I've been pouring over curriculum choices for an hour, ready to present my $800 idea and not really interested in his opinion, only his support.  (wince)

He takes the bait.  Gives his alternate opinion.  Puts me on the defensive.  Gives me a "fine, do what you want" and stalks off.


After 20 years as a Christian, 18 years as a loving wife, and 8 years as a devoted homeschool teacher, you'd think I'd have squelched this sin-habit of Just Tell Me What I Want To Hear.  I scour marriage and homeschool life books, sincerely trying to internalize the sage advice of smart and savvy women who have mastered the art of submission in marriage. 

Yet I hold this homeschooling endeavor tight to my chest with a Mother-Knows-Best attitude.  Sure, I'll submit to his opinions on new computers and when the right time is to build a deck.  But not this.  It's my hill to live or die on.  (deeper wince)

I slink off to the bedroom, stewing because he has questioned the validity of my idea.  He sits alone on the porch with his cereal and private thoughts.  I slide into the shower, feeling it coming, the gentle conviction that flows from a heart given over to a Spirit Who calls out sin.  It's not guilt that washes over me. 

It's love

A Love that makes me want to love.

And here is what I know about the man I gave my heart to on a warm June day.  He will come and find me.  He will pull me to him and apologize for hurting my feelings.  He will not leave for work without making things right.  And here is what I know about myself.  I will move into his arms and I will apologize, too, and confess I set him up to fail.

Yes, there it is, the knock on the bedroom door.  He has come.  My love.

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Bang, Bang, I Am a Worrier

There was a song recorded by Pat Benatar in the 80's called I Am a Warrior.  I remember jamming to it in my bedroom, my finger guns smoking..."shooting at the walls of heartache, bang, bang, I am a warrior." 

Since we love a good parody, my husband said I should rewrite this song for my concerts.  How about...


I Am a Worrier.


I didn't used to be a worrier.  I've always had an innate confidence in my abilities (except, ironically, that I can never confidently spell the word "confidence."  Is it a c or an s at the end?  Thank you, spellcheck.) 


I grew up pretty fearless, always game to try new things and usually finding a decent amount of success.  Fearless, that is, until I had kids and became a stay-at-home mom and home school teacher. 


A strangling fear creeps in that I am blowing this precious opportunity.


It is the biggest gift God could give me...the freedom to be home with my kids, teaching them, learning alongside them.  In the beginning, I painted a Monet dream of our lives, soft brushstrokes, idyllic scenes, homey and relaxed.  The books I was reading fed into this vision.

 

I think, though, we more often look like a Picasso. 




You could come hang out with us for a week and think we're a quite normal, cheerful group.  This battleground is mostly in my head, where what I imagine doesn't line up with what is. 

"We should do things more like this family" can stick like a burr. 

"I am not enough for this job" can take root like a thistle weed in poor soil.   

The worries branch out to poke my kids and my husband with the subtle, unspoken message that "This is not how I want you to be."  They are most pronounced when I'm laying in bed, not quite asleep or awake,  my mind a fertilizer.




The closer my children get to growing up, the more I worry.  Poor habits I used to dismiss are becoming ingrained in them.  Fruit I'd hoped to see is not there yet.  I'm just not sure how to do all this.

Wisdom says,

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. -2 Cor. 10:5.

I lean hard into this.  It's all I have, really.  The ability to tear out weeds and plant seeds of truth.  To surrender to His abundant grace and walk the best I can on his weedless path.


To find beauty in the sharp lines and strange angles of this picasso-life. 

Friday, May 13, 2011

6 X 7 = Meltdown

Homeshool Mom pops a cork.  Blows a gasket.  Breaths fire on her little girls.  I am drilling math facts; the same ones I have drilled the whole year.  Why won't they stick?  A better question is..."Why have I let this little thing define my performance as a teacher...their value as students?" 


I squeeze my temples dramatically and seethe, "I must be a terrible teacher because you are not getting this after all this time."  Nothing like a little passive agressive shame treatment.                            
I really want to quit this day.  I have very few days when I feel so ornery and defeated, thankfully.  I stomp off to the bathroom to breathe deep and get ready to, of all things, head to a worship rehearsal.  I feel a long way from worshipful.

A quiet knock on the door and I think, "Leave me ALONE," but don't say it.  The door opens a crack and a little hand reaches in to drop a card on the vanity that says,  "I love you, mom.  I'm sorry."  I walk downstairs and another little hand is dangling a card, though the rest of her is turned the other way.  "To: Mom  Thank you for all the wuderful things you have said to us in the past it was alllllllll me not you not Megan allllll me.  pS I was the one who was gumpy."

My icy heart melts a bit, though I still feel like a taut rubber band.  Lord, tame this temper.  Soften me up.  Work this hardened dirt into supple clay. 

I know their hearts are worth more than a right answer on a flashcard...and that my value has nothing to do with numbers and everything to do with grace.  May it sink in like spring rain.  Love them.  Love them.  Just love them.

Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.   I Cor. 13:7